“Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways.” – Sigmund Freud
Hey tough guy, you say you don’t cry?
But when your mom leaves without giving you a hug,
I still see that water well up in your eyes.
Hey tough guy, you say you don’t care?
But the way your body shakes when you are worrying about your friends,
It seems like you do.
Hey tough guy, you say you don’t need help?
But I remember you crying out for help when you fell and scraped your knee,
You needed me to know.
Hey tough guy, you say you don’t need anyone?
But when you grip my hand that tight when we talk,
I feel like you don’t want me to go.
Hey tough guy, you say you are okay?
But when you cross your arms and turn away
It looks like there’s still more you need to say.
Hey tough guy, you say you aren’t scared?
But when you hide your feelings aren’t you scared of being vulnerable?
Hey tough guy, you say you are strong?
But would you still feel strong if you took off that mask of masculinity?
Hey tough guy, you say that these things make you weak?
But does avoiding them really make you feel stronger?
Hey tough guy, I know the world has a lot to say.
They put the burden all on you.
They say you have to be brave.
And to keep everything inside, even if you don’t want to.
Hey tough guy, I know they tell you “you’re okay”.
They want you to brush it off, be a man, put up those walls.
The world has put too much pressure on you.
To be something that isn’t real, that isn’t natural
Hey tough guy, I know people will tell you to be a certain way
And it won’t be easy to tell them no.
But I am here to remind you…
That it’s okay to be sad, scared, angry, and worried too.
Even the toughest guys have emotions.
That it’s okay to open up to people.
Even the toughest guys have to let it out sometimes.
That it’s okay to have challenges.
Even the toughest guys have to overcome difficult things in their lives.
That it’s okay to be honest about who you are and what you feel.
Even the toughest guys aren’t tough all the time.
So release the burdens of the world,
Let those walls they’ve created fall down.
Speak from your heart.
And be true to yourself.
Because tough guy,
The thing I love about you most
is that you are so much more than just a tough guy.